It’s natural to resist change, and to be scared of shaking up the familiar status quo. However, we all hit times in our life where we need to make a change to develop ourselves, as workers, as parents, as human beings. Major, disruptive changes can open all kinds of doors, but getting stuck into them can be difficult. Here are a few tips for making a positive change in your life…
Pin Down and Understand What You Want to Change
If you’re craving some kind of large, sweeping change in your life, the first step you need to take is understanding why you’re craving it in the first place. Start off by thinking about your core personal values, and identifying what’s really important to you.
There have been countless people who set themselves a goal and pursue it with incredible grit, but when they actually arrive, they find that it wasn’t for them after all. You need to be 110% clear on what it is about your goal that’s going to add to you as a person; what’s going to make you feel better about yourself, and more expansive.
Spend enough time chewing over different goals, and soon enough you’ll hit a “sweet spot”, a goal you can pursue that instantly triggers a positive feeling in your gut.
Form a Support Network
Humans are social creatures, and if anyone goes too long without interacting with other people, it can be a massive strain on their mental health.
A strong support network that you can lean on when times are tough is essential to bouncing back from life’s adversity, whether it’s just a bad day at work or the loss of a loved one. For some people, their support network is a single trusted friend or family member.
For others, it’s a group of people that always make them feel better about their situation. Some people will even want to go a step further, hiring a professional life coach or counselor.
However you do it, make sure you’re establishing a support network before you pursue any major change in your life. This will provide you with a potent sense of belonging, a boost to your self-esteem, and a feeling of security at times where you need advice, information and guidance.
Flush Out Negativity
Unfortunately, you’re never going to have a life that’s completely void of negativity. Even if this were possible, living in constant positivity would quickly take the value out of all the good things in life.
However, if you make a habit of trying to see a glass that’s half-full more often, it can have an incredible impact on how easily you’re able to make that positive change you’re chasing. Furthermore, if you make an effort to rid your life of negative external elements, you’ll naturally start to encounter more people and situations that are positive rather than negative.
Obviously, this is easier said than done. However, as you try to be grateful for more things, and laugh more often, you’ll gradually figure out what works and what doesn’t.