Do you know that problems with confidence are more common than most people realize? Around fifty million people a year lie down on a couch and speak to a therapist, and we guarantee a large percentage of these individuals will be tackling issues with confidence. But what affects our levels of confidence in ourselves and how can we get it back?
Bullying, humiliation, psychological control and anything similar is going to knock your confidence right down. You see it all the time in women who are with psychologically abusive partners. As for bullying, it can happen in your childhood and still impact your life in your forties. People who are bullied are often haunted by flashbacks to what happened. This is a form of PTSD, and it can be crippling for levels of confidence.
The only way to deal with issues like this and get your confidence back is to speak to someone about it. You need to find the root of the problem, whatever that might be, and hit back. As soon as you start accepting the issue you’ll feel better about yourself and hopefully, you’ll be able to leave it behind you.
Beauty Isn’t Everything…
But let’s agree that it helps. People who are conventionally attractive often have an easier life compared to those who aren’t. That’s why we pay so much attention to celebrity culture. We want what they have, we want their looks their style. Well, these days, that is a possibility, and if the way you look is what’s killing your confidence, there are ways to change.
For instance, you might be totally unhappy with a certain feature on your face that you think makes you unattractive. That could be your nose, and maybe it’s that there’s a slight curve upwards. If that’s the case, you can get nose surgery to correct it. They’ll be able to give you a perfect nose if that’s what you want and perhaps this is the only change you need to feel better about yourself. Or, maybe there are other things you wish you could change as well.
Perhaps you don’t even need surgery? If you’re unhappy with your body shape, you might just want to exercise. Exercising more will actually help you feel better about yourself before you ever see a change to your weight.
Of course, it might be that you’ve always had issues feeling confident in groups of people or in social situations. If that’s the case, you might have social anxiety disorder or a similar condition. It doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you and cognitive therapy is usually the answer here. With cognitive therapy, you can work with someone to develop coping mechanisms that will help you deal with situations where you don’t feel confident.
Eventually, no one will be able to see that you have trouble socializing and you’ll feel a lot better. You’ll be able to walk into a room full of people with your head held high, smile, make eye contact and open the doors that could change your life. Ultimately, that’s the impact that confidence can have. You’ll suddenly find that there’s a whole new world of possibilities and you can unlock those doors just by feeling confident about yourself, the way you look and who you are.