I grew up in a family that was really close knit. By close knit, I mean the tell your husband – tell your wife everything kind of close knit. We children quickly learnt that there was no use trying to play Mum against Dad or vice versa…they were always up to date on everything.
Moving forward, I’m married with a home of my own and my husband and I try to replicate that tell your husband – tell your wife everything relationship. And well…hmmm…I’m not sure I should be saying this, but it is not quite working out the way I thought my parents’ marriage worked out.
I have heard from different people that there are certain things you should not tell your husband. I find that a bit hard to live with for the simple reason that I’m not very good at keeping secrets from someone I live with and share a bed with. It is extremely HARD. When you share your life with someone, you tend to want to share all aspects of that life with the person.
Yet, I will be the first to admit that there are some things he would have been better off not knowing about. Not stuff that involves me personally in any way, but things that are usually not that important anyway.
My husband and I disagree on how much I should tell him. I don’t think I should share other people’s secrets (like if my friends are having problems in their marriage and they share private stuff with me)…that stuff is really none of his business. But he honestly believes that once it gets to me, it is his business mostly because he also tries to share everything with me.
Anyway, this is something that I can’t quite make up my mind about. I’ve asked my parents and to my shock, my dad believes there are some things you do not tell your husband. Phew… Maybe I need therapy, lol.
So tell me people because I really want to know: how much should you tell your husband?