Every once in a while, we all gaze longingly at happy couples – either power couples like Jay Z and Beyonce or our friend and his/her partner who always seem so happy and picture perfect. We just stare at them and wonder how they do it, there has got to be a secret to being such a wide eyed couple. There is no way for us to know if those couples we admire are actually happy but that doesn’t stop us from admiring.
The good news is, there are special ingredients that make the happy couple pot of soup. According to these scientists who spent years studying happy couples, there are a few charasteristics that all happy couples have in common:
They were friends before they dated
A lot of people feel it’s weird to date their friends; “I don’t want to ruin what we have”. As genuine as that concern seems, a lot of people use it as a way out of telling their friend they are really not interested. Well, if you are one of those reluctantly having feelings for your friend, this research by John Gottman says you should totally go for it. Dating your close friend would create a stronger bond which is good for all relationships.
They do not have children.
Research by the Council in Contemporary Families discovered that couples without children were the happiest – whether they were married or not.
If you already have children, there’s no need to panic and start voicing curses against the researchers who said this. The research states that for couples with children to be happy, they have to be working for companies with good parental leave policies.
You have to admit though, raising children is not easy. Changing diapers in the middle of the night and having your child sneak into your room at midnight because he/she is scared of the closet monster can put a damper in bedroom romance.
They binge drink together!
Research by the Buffalo Research Institute states that couples who have similar drinking habits are more likely to stay together. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you should both be fans of the same kind of liquor. Just that one shouldn’t be a lover of alcohol while the other isn’t.