Domestic abuse is serious stuff and sadly, many Nigerian women have suffered (and are still suffering) from domestic abuse. The general trend is to wonder why victims of domestic abuse stay; it’s very easy for those who have never really experienced abuse to wonder, Why don’t they leave?
But this is a complex issue mired with several psychological and emotional factors. Some of these were shared in the Twitter hashtag #WhyIStayed. Reading the stories of women who courageously shared their experiences gave a totally different perspective to domestic abuse and what goes on in the minds of victims.
Here are a few Tweets that are absolutely heartbreaking:
Because I believed him when he said he would kill me and take my child if I left. #WhyIStayed
— Rebecca Sorrell (@BexSoReal) September 11, 2014
#whyistayed because he made me afraid to do anything that would upset him
— Kathren Froeba (@karenfrobie) September 11, 2014
Because all my friends and family knew me to be a strong woman…and I was ashamed to have tolerated him #WhyIStayed
— Jazzie Dixson (@JazzieDixson) September 11, 2014
There is so much more there and you really should read them for yourself. Just click on this link here => #WhyIStayed
Some of these reasons sound familiar don’t they? Especially when they tell you that no one will ever want you if you leave? Well guess what? They are lies. All lies! If you are in an abusive relationship…where your husband beats you or hits you, sister, it’s time to start thinking about an alternative. Here are some good reasons why:
If you have children:
- You don’t want them to grow up thinking that is all they deserve (studies show that people who grew up in an environment of abuse end up marrying into such a life.) Is this the kind of life you want for your daughter or son?
- If he kills you (and make no mistake, he might one day), what is going to happen to your children? Don’t they deserve to have a mother?
Domestic violence is a cycle. Let it end with you; don’t pass it on to the next generation.
If you have no children (and even if you do):
- The Bible (and most Holy Books) are totally 100% against domestic violence. There’s nowhere that a woman was beaten and was told to just “endure.” If you feel obliged to change him, then pray for him from a distance.
- What will you tell God if the man eventually kills you? He gave you a life and brought you to earth for a purpose…have you fulfilled that purpose? It’s like seeing a truck coming and standing in front of it.
Naija Housewives is always in support of marriage. BUT we strongly believe that marriage is made up of two LIVING people.
Think about this today. And as you read that hashtag on Twitter, try and reach out to at least one woman today. Many times, domestic abuse is not always evident from looking at the victim.