Are You A Missionary?

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Hi sexy ladies, something for you to ponder as we enter a new month.

Are you a Missionary?

So there’s nothing wrong with the missionary style when it comes to having sex with your man. It’s fun and it’s comfortable; and it can get boring really fast if that’s all you’re ever comfortable doing. If you’re one of those women who shuts hubby down anytime he wants to introduce some adventure into the bedroom, well, I have two words for you. STOP IT.

Sex is one of the wonderful parts of being married and it builds intimacy. You should be able to try different things in the bedroom and your husband should feel comfortable enough to share his fantasies with you. Of course this should be within reason.

If you’re not comfortable with BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism) then please don’t feel obliged to do so. Not everyone is okay with being tied up or beaten in the name of sex and really, you should never allow anyone to pressurize you into doing that.

However, you could try some mild bondage. For example, use silk scarves to loosely tie his hands to the bedpost and have your way with him. Alternatively, you could let him do the same to you and allow him to pleasure you completely.

I know. For some of you, these ideas might be bold. But adding a little spice in the bedroom could go a long way to reviving a marriage that has become the victim of complacency and pure laziness. Marriage is hard work, you need to work hard at it and so is having a fabulous sex life. You can have it if you’re willing to put in the time and labour.

Here are a few things you can do to give your man a treat:

• Change positions. Try standing up, going down on all fours or woman on top.
• Try oral sex. Get a bowl of ice cream and lick it off your man.
• Do a strip tease for him.
• Tell him where and how to touch you.

There are so many things a woman can do to make her sex life rock. If you know any, feel free to share by leaving a comment.

And remember:

-Sex is an unselfish act. If you focus on the other partner’s pleasure, chances are that your pleasure will be heightened.

– Before you try anything radical, discuss with your partner. You don’t want him thinking you’ve been practicing elsewhere. 😉

As always, I remain your sex therapist,

Nadia.