DIY Love: Respecting Him

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Men have a thing about respect. The average man wants more respect from his woman. As women, we do not deliberately set out to disrespect out men; on the contrary, we give them a lot of respect. The problem stems from the fact that most times, men and women see respect from different angles. For some men, respect is a matter of what you do, while of others, it is how you say what you say. You need to know your man and find out what is important to him. A good way to do this is to find out his love language.

No matter who the man is, one thing that can really affect him is when you put down your man in public, particularly in front of his family and friends. You scold, shout on, or snap at him in front of others. This is one of the biggest signs of disrespect for a man.

More than respect for your man, when you put down your man in front of others, you are actually bringing disrespect to yourself.

A Yoruba proverb says that it is how you carry what is yours that the village will put their hands together and help you carry it. In other words, treat your husband how you want others to treat him. If you want any Tom, Dick and Harry to insult your man and call him names, go ahead and do the same in public.

Now, I am not saying that you should put your husband down in private either; far from it. Remember that charity begins at home, so if you are in the habit of verbally abusing your husband, or making him feel like less of a man at home, it won’t be long before you do it in public. Your role as a wife is to build your man up.

Set high expectations and treat him as though he has already achieved those expectations you set for him. When he falls short, be there to support him. Before you have the right to demand a good husband, you need to be a good wife.