A lot of people believe that there’s a formula to life. You graduate from high school or college, you get a job and start moving up the career ladder, you find someone you love, you get married, you buy a house, you have kids… but this isn’t the way that a lot of people’s lives seem to be ending up. (At least, not at the speed at which they expected it to. And there’s always the chance things go wrong even when those goals are met.)
And even if someone does attain those things, or the bulk of them, that doesn’t mean they’re going to feel fulfilled. Even after all that, they may still feel a little lost, unable to identify where exactly they’re supposed to go or what they should do next.
If you’ve feeling a little lost at the moment, then this guide is here to help you find the right direction.
Something you should understand is that a lot of people end up feeling this way because they haven’t met other people’s expectations. For the most part, that ‘life formula’ outlined earlier is really something that others expect you to do; they’re societal pressures more than they are signs of true fulfillment. So just remember that your path is something you should carve for yourself, without putting focus on what others expect.
Be open with others about the way you’re feeling. There are a lot of people out there who are feeling just as lost as you. It may not be obvious, because people often hide this sort of feeling from their friends, families, or even their partners. But if you open up to others about your feelings, they may be able to help you with introducing some direction to your life. (Or, at the very least, they’ll help you feel less alone with the problem!) You may even want to consider talking to a psychiatrist or an online psychic if you want to get advice from unique sources.
The best way to ‘organize’ your thoughts and priorities is to figure out why you’re doing what you do. Let’s take your job, for example. Why are you doing it? If the only answer is “the money”, then that’s probably not going to make you happy in the long-term. If you’re only doing other tasks to avoid disappointing others, then this is another problem. You need to find out what “why” motivates you the most. Maybe your favorite answer to “why” is “because it helps others”. If so, altruism is a great motivator for you, meaning you should focus on that.
Find your priorities
When you’ve assessed your motivations for doing things, as well as the overall goal of your life, then you can start sorting things out into priorities on a daily basis. When you wake up, you should plan out your day carefully. Put priority on tasks that make you happier and move you towards your goal. As the day progresses, you should ensure that you’re actually sticking to the tasks that meet these criteria. The more you focus on these things, the more determined you’ll feel, and the clearer your desired path will become.