Ask God to give your husband confidence. Pray that he will experience a deep assurance which can only come from God. That he will not suffer from low self-esteem and that he will truly see himself as God sees him; a special and wonderful person who can achieve anything with God’s help.
A lot of men go around with very little confidence; they mask it by being loud and brash. They raise their shoulders as they walk and are ready to pick a fight and then they come home and yell at their wives. This is a sure sign of no-confidence. Then there are those who seem too laid-back; they are not willing to try anything and are extra-sensitive to what people say or do. Same thing… no confidence.
You need a man you can rely on; someone you can trust to take care of you and your children and if he has no confidence in himself, it’s hard to have confidence in him. But even as you’re praying, let me tell you a secret… you know who you are deep inside the secret places of your heart where no one can see. You know your limitations and the detestable things you are capable of, and yet, God has 100% confidence in you. So you need to turn around and have 100% confidence in your husband and show him that you do.
Yes, he has made some stupid mistakes…true, he has not shown himself to be someone you can rely on (or maybe he has), whatever your situation is, as you ask God to bless your husband with confidence today, you be God’s representative on earth and begin to show him that you trust him. That is faith. When you know things are not as they are, but you trust God enough to know that HE will turn things around and so you begin to act as though they already are the way you wish them to be.
A confident man will not hit his wife. A confident man might yell at her, but he will apologize and get his act together. Notice that this is not self-confidence, but it is the confidence that comes from God.
God, thank you for making my husband a confident man. I know he is not up there yet on the confidence scale, but I also know that you are taking him there each day.